countdown~~
i have sooooo much homework to do.. but i'm distracted.. my darling's plane is gonna land in an hour!! argh.. dunno wad i'm reading already.. can't concentrate.. think i should just write a blog entry hehe~
just now during lunch, me and pacey watched the movie: the breakup, starring jennifer aniston. at first i didn't want to watch cos i may want to wait for dear to arrive before we watch together.. but i was thinking.. the breakup? mebbe it's better not to watch that first thing when he comes >.< so, wad the heck.. i need to pass time!! today's time is passing sooo slowly!! T.T
anyway, the show is about this couple who broke up.. the reason? like what happens to many couples there.. inability to compromise and give in.. i shall just start with the difference between men and women. women usually like the home to be neat and tidy, men on the other hand, doesn't really mind if the dishes are not done, the clothes are piled up, or if the bed is not made. in a house where a couple lives together, what happens when there's double standards? women of course will then insist that the house be kept in order and so will cook, wash the dishes, pick up the dirty laundry etc. but these are mundane jobs.. who likes to do them? especially when both parties are working.. women when they tire, hope that men will help them out.. but the idea is that they hope that men will offer to help, to want to do the dishes.. men's remark: why would i desire to do the dishes? most men don't get it! they don't understand why the dishes must be done immediately after dinner, why they even have to help out in the kitchen when it's women's "duty". women then get upset that men take them for granted to manage the house, that men don't really care if the women also worked the whole day (just like men), and still had to come back to cook, to wash and to tidy up the mess in the house while the men just sit down and relax.. women's job sometimes is like 24/7.. especially if they have kids.. not that men don't care, just that men usually are not capable of doing as good a job as women.. women's standards for cleanliness and order in the house is just so much than the guy's standards.. as a result, usually men feel upset that they have to maintain such a high standard just for the sake of making the women happy.. as such, because of these little difference in values that both parties hold, conflict arises as time goes by.. y? because women want the men to want to maintain such standards, or at the very least, want to help their wife to do that.. and obviously when they don't share the value, women start to nag.. when women complains, men shuts off or becomes defensive and the tension just gets worse.. if none are willing to give in, they break up..
such issues are so common in most relationships, and they take all kinds of form.. everyone has different values for different things, and sometimes a person's values are just too far apart from their partners, which makes things very difficult to resolve. i have read an article on WebMD before on finding out if you've found the "right one" and one of the main issues that they listed was if the couple had similar values. if both parties value religion highly, say, it makes things so much easier for them.. or should i say, make one less thing to fight about..
kewl~ i spent half an hour on this!! half an hour more and my darling will gimme a call!! yay~
just now during lunch, me and pacey watched the movie: the breakup, starring jennifer aniston. at first i didn't want to watch cos i may want to wait for dear to arrive before we watch together.. but i was thinking.. the breakup? mebbe it's better not to watch that first thing when he comes >.< so, wad the heck.. i need to pass time!! today's time is passing sooo slowly!! T.T
anyway, the show is about this couple who broke up.. the reason? like what happens to many couples there.. inability to compromise and give in.. i shall just start with the difference between men and women. women usually like the home to be neat and tidy, men on the other hand, doesn't really mind if the dishes are not done, the clothes are piled up, or if the bed is not made. in a house where a couple lives together, what happens when there's double standards? women of course will then insist that the house be kept in order and so will cook, wash the dishes, pick up the dirty laundry etc. but these are mundane jobs.. who likes to do them? especially when both parties are working.. women when they tire, hope that men will help them out.. but the idea is that they hope that men will offer to help, to want to do the dishes.. men's remark: why would i desire to do the dishes? most men don't get it! they don't understand why the dishes must be done immediately after dinner, why they even have to help out in the kitchen when it's women's "duty". women then get upset that men take them for granted to manage the house, that men don't really care if the women also worked the whole day (just like men), and still had to come back to cook, to wash and to tidy up the mess in the house while the men just sit down and relax.. women's job sometimes is like 24/7.. especially if they have kids.. not that men don't care, just that men usually are not capable of doing as good a job as women.. women's standards for cleanliness and order in the house is just so much than the guy's standards.. as a result, usually men feel upset that they have to maintain such a high standard just for the sake of making the women happy.. as such, because of these little difference in values that both parties hold, conflict arises as time goes by.. y? because women want the men to want to maintain such standards, or at the very least, want to help their wife to do that.. and obviously when they don't share the value, women start to nag.. when women complains, men shuts off or becomes defensive and the tension just gets worse.. if none are willing to give in, they break up..
such issues are so common in most relationships, and they take all kinds of form.. everyone has different values for different things, and sometimes a person's values are just too far apart from their partners, which makes things very difficult to resolve. i have read an article on WebMD before on finding out if you've found the "right one" and one of the main issues that they listed was if the couple had similar values. if both parties value religion highly, say, it makes things so much easier for them.. or should i say, make one less thing to fight about..
kewl~ i spent half an hour on this!! half an hour more and my darling will gimme a call!! yay~
posted by Pinkie @ 6:06 AM
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